It’s that time of year again–time for those of us with sweeties, partners, spouses, and so forth to think about doing something Valentines-y. I’ve added a few new tips to this post that talk more about the travel aspect of a Valentines getaway…
Lots of people go on romantic getaways sometime near Valentine’s Day. It’s a great time to take a trip with a loved one with the goal of spending some *ahem* quality time together, whether in a snowy clime or on a sunny beach.
But what if you’re stuck with a menage-a-trois on your Valentines excursion, because you’ve got to drag along that ever-unwelcome companion–chronic pain? When pain’s along for the ride, what can you do to steal that quality time with your Valentine (with or with out the *ahem*, if you know what I mean)?
Go Someplace Pretty
When my husband and I do the Romantic Weekend Getaway thing, we go someplace beautiful. We prefer the beach (which is gorgeous even in winter), but you can also find hotels and inns with views of mountains, lakes, rivers, forests, deserts…whatever you prefer and whatever’s within an easy drive of your home. Heck, it can even be fun to go to a major city and stay in a downtown hotel with a view of the skyscrapers.
Splurge on a Great Room
Another thing we like to do for our V-Day getaway is spend the extra $$ on a room with a view. Last year we stayed in a room that let me look out over the Monterey Bay…from the bed. In fact, that’s one of my favorite things when I travel–getting a room that’s got something beautiful or interesting for me to look at when I’m lying in bed resting. I have to rest a lot, and if my pain is intrusive on a trip, I may have to spend a lot of my time in bed. Which can suck. But if I’ve got a view from the bed, I can distract myself from the pain just by looking out the window. I know I’m not at home. I’m appreciating a new and different location.
But Make It Close to Home
If you’re planning just an overnight trip on the 14th of February, choose a destination that’s at most an hour’s drive from your home. The “transit” part is almost always the most pain-creating part of any trip. So keep that part to a minimum. Don’t fly. Don’t drive for hours just to turn around and drive back the next day. Heck, stay in town and try a new B&B, explore your own historic downtown as a tourist, or head for a natural wonder or major tourist attraction you never visit ’cause you live close by.
And once you’ve made it to your destination, here’s how to make your trip romantic…
Snuggling can’t be overrated as a way of connecting with your sweetheart. Cuddling, canoodling, and spooning work too.
Enjoy a Romantic Dinner
If going out isn’t going to work, stay in. Bring a picnic with you in a cooler, order room service, call out for pizza. Light a travel candle, kick back, and have Dinner In Bed.
Talk…About Something Else
Make a major effort to talk about something besides your health, doctor’s appointments, current pain, etc. Instead, talk about politics, religion, the weather, the state of the roads…whatever, so long as it gives you and your partner a break from your physical problems.
Take a Bath
Hot water soothes so many things. So take a bath–so much the better if you can afford a room with a two-person jetted tub so you and your partner can take that bath together. (No you don’t have to do anything but bathe!)
Indulge in a Couples Massage
For those with enough money, lots of luxury hotels and a growing number of mid-priced inns and motels offer in-room couples massages. If ever there was a time to indulge, it’s now! (Whenever “now” might be.)
Watch a Movie
Do you and your partner love to MST3K bad movies? Or do you prefer to hold hands and watch epic masterpieces in silence? Bring your favorite DVDs along on your trip and spend some time bonding while being entertained. Lie together on your hotel bed and hold hands. Giggle. Cuddle.
If you’re feeling up to a couple of hours sitting up, head for the nearest movie theater and have a real live two-hour date.
*Ahem* Enjoy Each Other
Yes, like that. Sex releases endorphins. And “sex” can mean a wide range of activities that enhance intimacy and happiness, even if you can’t do it all.